JOHN: When the Wheel category is relationships (including friends, colleagues, neighbors, etc.) a client who feels disconnected can use that awareness to proactively do many things to nurture and heal their relationships.ĮMMA: I agree. This mythology is deeply embedded in our psyche starting in the fairy tales we read at a young and impressionable age. There is a constant mythology being peddled through advertising/books/magazines/movies/TV that our goal in life is to find our 'one true love' and live happily ever after – without realising that relationships take ongoing work, effort and usually (if they are to succeed) no small amount of personal growth on our part.

But I think the issue goes a lot deeper than a 'Significant Other/Romance' category on a coaching tool. You must see this every day in your line of work. We look outside of ourselves to fill the void, instead of learning to take care of ourselves. All too often people are looking to bolster their self-esteem by finding someone to love them. Our society programs us from a young age to find 'the one' who will complete us so we can live happily ever after. The instructions ask clients to rate their satisfaction in each area - not score themselves! In particular, what prompted me to email you is that I recently coached a client who said that 'she had done the Wheel of Life Exercise and was deficient in Significant Other/Romance'.ĮMMA: That is sad. I do not like the 'Significant Other/Romance' category and urge you to change it. JOHN: I have known about the wheel for 25+ years and there are numerous versions of the wheel with a category for 'Relationships'. So, below I have loosely recreated our email discussion for you to read! To learn everything you need to know about this powerful coaching tool read: The Complete Guide to the Wheel of Life. But first, we had a spirited discussion over email. John shared a recent experience which led me to remove 'Romance' from the 'Significant Other/Romance' category description on The Wheel of Life Tool. Recently I had a very interesting discussion with a forward thinking divorce lawyer, mediator and life coach (let's call him John). 5 Shares Why I've Removed 'Romance' from the Wheel of Life!

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